Author: Garth Stein
What hooked me:
Not that an auto racing fan needs any form of excuse or justification, but here it is – racing, a metaphor for life – and even better, the story is told through the eyes of a man’s best friend, the philosopher dog Enzo.
It’s a riveting and complete novel – thoughtfully constructed against a racing backdrop that engages the reader as much or more than racing engages Denny Swift, a Seattle based semi-pro race driver. For non-racing fans – don’t let the racing theme distract you – it won’t. Last evening my wife’s friend Tania, who has no interest in auto racing of any type was saying that she just loved the audio book version. Quite simply the racing theme exists in the form of a subtle framework – just enough to hook any fan of the sport, but without overpowering the story of Denny’s journey through love, betrayal, death and devotion. Once started, this one is tough to put down. In three or four evenings it took me through a full range of emotions, in the end leaving me feeling good, that deep contemplative heart-warming good!
Enzo on Active Listening:
“I cannot speak, so I listen very well. I never interrupt, I never deflect the course of the conversation with a comment of my own. People, if you pay attention to them, change the direction of one another’s conversations constantly. It’s like having a passenger in your car who suddenly grabs the steering wheel and turns you down a side street. For instance, if we met at a party and I wanted to tell you a story about the time I needed to get a soccer ball in my neighbour’s yard but his dog chased me and I had to jump into a swimming pool to escape, and I began telling the story, you hearing the words “soccer” and “neighbor” in the same sentence, might interrupt and mention that your childhood neighbour was Pele, the famous soccer player, and I might be courteous and say, Didn’t he play for the Cosmos of New York? Did you grow up in New York? And you might reply that, no, you grew up in Brazil on the streets of Tres Coracoes with Pele, and I might say, I thought you were from Tennessee, and you might say not originally, and then go on to outline your genealogy at length. So my initial conversational gambit – that I had a funny story about being chased by my neighbour’s dog – would be totally lost, and only because you had to tell me all about Pele. Learn to listen! I beg of you. Pretend you are a dog like me and listen to other people rather than steal their stories.”
Enzo Listening to Denny:
“When I was nineteen,” Denny said after a moment, “at my first driving school down at Sears Point, it was raining and they were trying to teach us how to drive in the rain. After the instructors were finished explaining all their secrets, all the students were totally confused. We had no idea what they were talking about. I looked over at the guy next to me – I remember him, he was from France and he was very fast. Gabriel Flouret. He smiled and he said: ‘That which you manifest is before you.’”
Authors: Cecile Andrews, Wanda Urbanska & Other Contributors
Simplicity – a recent phenomenon or fad? A predictable response to our current society’s propensity to “cram 10 pounds of shit into a 5 pound bag” (as my friend Matt so eloquently puts it)? Or, is a return to values that have been espoused for centuries?
Some Excerpts:
Less is More asks great questions and delivers thoughtful, practical considerations and perspectives from credentialed thought leaders that guide the reader on a journey of personal fulfilment through Simplicity and Sustainability. There is an inner wealth to be mined from the time spent with this book. Nearly every page contains a “quotable” worthy of additional thoughtful reflection.
Some links:
Authors: Don Edward Beck & Christopher C. Cowan
This is not a book about personality or capabilities profiles. Rather it presents a compelling and engaging perspective on the past, present and future of the development of worldviews, value systems and levels of psychological existence systems. Spiral Dynamics is based on the decades of focus Dr. Clare W. Graves expended in building “the emergent, cyclical, double-helix model of adult biopsychosocial systems development.” But, don’t be put off by his description. The model is made eminently understandable by using colour coding to define the various stages of the model and what each component means in terms of worldview/values evolution and development.
This book is essentially a Tool Kit for managing the deepest differences in people – creating understanding that, as the authors suggest will create the outcome that “any bright, curious human being can, quite simply, change the world”.
Some excerpts:
One final note: if you too enjoy the thought stimulation provided by Richard Dawkins’ perspectives you’ll enjoy the specific contributions that he made to the understandings in Spiral Dynamics.
Thought I’d give a sneak peak at some books that have caught my attention recently. One might look at the list and conclude that it’s a pretty mixed bag, but as a good friend said to me recently “there are truths about life that are fundamental to learning and living – and they appear everywhere, provided we are open”. In that context perhaps this ‘mix’ is a way of stretching my heart and mind to what the universe has to teach me.
- Less is More – Embracing Simplicity for a Healthy Planet: Cecile Andrews
- Getting Things Done – The Art of Stress-Free Productivity: David Allen
- Managing Corporate Lifecycles: Ichak Adizes
- Spiral Dynamics – Mastering Values, Leadership and Change: Don Edward Beck
- Race to Win: Derek Daly
- The Karting Manual: Joao Diniz Sanches
“Think of the last time that you justified your behavior only to find out at a later stage that you were procrastinating change. The next step is to be honest with yourself and recognize that what you are justifying now is based on fear and insecurity and the resistance to change. The final step is to decide whether you are going to continue fooling yourself or, pluck up the courage and do the right thing that will help you move forward.” Quote from Chapter 3 – Characteristics of the Ego – Justification
“You may have had a great insight, seen opportunity for change, or been excited about your future prospects only to be tripped up by the ego. Before you knew it, you are experiencing doubt, anxiety, and insecurity. The little voice of the ego (using your own voice) started to say things like, What are you thinking about? You’re too old for this! Or, You’re too young for this! Or, You don’t have enough money for this! Or, It’s never been done before. All this doubtful internal chatter happens incredibly fast, and in an instant, your dream, your vision, this potential for something great, has been squashed by the ego.” Quote from Chapter 3 – How The Ego Operates
HK Comment: This is one of the most powerful books that I’ve ever read in terms of delivering insights into one’s own soul, motivations, fears and aspirations. Suffice it to say that I read the first 6 of ten chapters in the first ‘sitting’.
I was initially going to add a glib “if you can take it!” to the first sentence of my comment, but that would not have been fair. As one turns the pages, because of the skill with which Eitan Sharir wields the tools that elicit the sometimes painful insights, there is truly a sense of relief, healing, empowerment and renewed purpose for the journey ahead.
Quote from the Introduction:
“Think of 18 Minutes as the FIND ME button for your life. It will guide you to your most effective self. It will offer you a clear view of yourself and your surroundings and then provide you with a map to help you get where you want to go. It’s the app that can help you reclaim your life.”
Page 9:
“Reducing your forward momentum is the first step to freeing yourself from the beliefs, habit, feelings, and busyness that may be limiting you.”
Page 109:
“Each morning, I ask myself some questions: Am I prepared for this day? Prepared to make it a successful, productive day? Have I thought about it? Planned for it? Anticipated the risks that might take me off track? Will my plan for this day keep me focused on what my year is about?
The chapters in this section will guide you to prepare for – and live – each day so you can answer those questions with a resounding “Yes!”
HK Comment: The author provides some terrific insights about the importance of going slow, and even stopping, in order to speed up one’s progress.